If you build it, they will come.
--- from the movie Field of Dreams
A friend of mine was looking for a new job, not an easy undertaking in a tough economy. Over dinner a few weeks ago, he said, “Tony, I know I’m in a dead-end job and I need to make a career change – for myself and for my family. I had an interview for a job I really want. I know I can do this job, and that it would be a great change for me. Yet the thing is, no matter what happens, I’m happy. I come home every evening to my wife and two kids, which is the most beautiful thing in the world. Everything else is extra. If I get this job – and I’m going to do my best to make it happen in this company or another one – great. Yet my happiness doesn’t depend on it.” Now I want you to imagine a man like this sitting across from you in an interview. Someone content in their own skin who radiates this inner stability. He is exactly the kind of person you want working for you, because he has the internal wherewithal to build positive momentum with the rest of your team and be loyal to your company. He called me a few days later to say he had been offered the position. To apply his way of thinking to your own life, consider what you want to attract into your life to feel successful. Now reflect on ways you can embrace and appreciate the beauty and love already filling your life, knowing that whatever you want that you don’t already have will be the beauty and love you already know, in another form. Remind yourself that what you seek you already have, in a different form, and use the feelings of power that emanate from these thoughts to unabashedly attract what you desire into your life.
Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).