Monday, June 22, 2015

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become Your Greatest Fan

I am sitting here in the smallest room of my house
with your letter of criticism before me.
It will soon be behind me.
--- H.L. Mencken

The paradox of disapproval is that the more you make peace with it, the less it shows up on your doorstep.

When you don’t pay attention to disapproval and instead just focus on moving in the direction you instinctually feel is right, you become successful on your own terms—the only way to gain approval in the long-run.

Herein lies a counterintuitive point about approval: To maximize the overall approval you will receive in your lifetime, you sometimes have to go against the opinions of the very same people whose approval you seek.

The fact is that most people have better things to do with their time than send disapproval messages to those who are confident and refuse to tune into their frequency.

I know I’m asking you to rise to a daunting challenge that will cause you discomfort. Let’s face it: receiving disapproval isn’t a lot of fun. Julie Andrews didn’t include disapproval on her list of favorite things as she sang and danced in the Austrian mountains in The Sound of Music. It’s not at the top of my list of favorite things either.

Yet are you here to have fun, or to walk proudly toward compelling goals that will motivate you for a lifetime?

This week, bring to mind one person whose disapproval has had a paralyzing effect on your life. Make a vow with yourself to put their disapproval behind you.


Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

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