Monday, June 8, 2015

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Build Meaningful Relationships


A few vices are sufficient 
to darken many virtues.
--- Plutarch

Joanna, a public relations executive in her mid-fifties I used to coach, had been married for thirty years. She and her husband had three children.

Then one day she discovered her husband had cheated on her with a younger woman. She immediately asked for a divorce.

He tried to woo here back, claiming that while he had made a mistake, it had only been one time and he would never do it again. He argued that they should stay together for their children, and that he still loved her.

She was intransigent in her resolve to divorce him. “He disrespected me,” she told me.

What should I have advised her? Should she have forgiven him? There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question.

Yet one thing is certain: his single act of less than an hour of sex with another woman has destroyed his family and a relationship he spent over thirty years constructing. In a matter of minutes, he almost completely depleted a trust account into which he had spent over thirty years of his life making deposits.

For this reason, clarifying your deepest values in a Vision Statement that you refer to at the start of each week is so important. When the desire for short-term gratification asks you to lend an ear, you need to be able to contrast this voice with a larger vision that guides your life throughout all of the moments that constitute it—especially the challenging moments that most define who you are.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

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