People who confront boredom never seem to have enough time for everything they want to do.
Others don’t take the time to think about what they really value, and instead do just about everything else.
They are afraid to be bored. They unquestioningly perceive dealing with themselves to be a hell on earth that is always right around the corner unless they avoid it, which they attempt to do at all costs.
This week, try to make your peace with the idea of spending time alone. Once you take this bold step, you will observe a sea change in your relationships.
The reason is that you will begin to spend time with others not because you need them around to help you get through the day, but because you value their inherent characteristics and want to share your time with them.
Once you make this change in how you socialize, you will be pleasantly surprised to find that others seek you out more.
Why? People read you like a book. When you are uncomfortable spending time alone, your ravenous need for companionship drips from every word that spills out of your mouth.
A learned skill in today’s society—which many have masterfully developed into an art form—is how to avoid such people.
Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).