We are not what other people say we are.
We are who we know ourselves to be, and we are what we love.
There are many times in our lives when we experience emotions that are difficult to process, such as when a relationship loses steam, or a key project is passed to someone else, or we realize that what we thought motivated us in our work no longer does.
These emotions often threaten to steer us off-course and away from balance.
Perhaps never are we tested so strongly than when we lose someone we love.
One of the most basic tenets of emotion, including the emotion of grief, is that we only feel emotions in relation to what we care about. If someone is not important to us, no emotions are stimulated when we think of them.
The strong emotions that arise when we care so deeply can feel overwhelming. At times, we need a respite from such profound feelings so we do not over-identify with them and forget that they are a part of who we are, but not all of who we are.
Sometimes, the simple act of laughing with a friend or seeing a romantic or funny movie that makes you smile is enough to enable you to regain your composure and return with more inner strength to your thoughts about the person you miss so much.
You may be devoted to always honoring the memory of the person you lost. When you do, also honor the love you gained by having them in your life.
Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).