Like all other human beings, you develop habitual patterns you’re comfortable with and continually act them out.
When we succumb to the unconscious control of our habitual patterns, we think we are experiencing each day, but in reality we’re only projecting our past experience repeatedly onto the present.
We’re not living 365 days each year, but one day 365 times.
Recall a time when you made a significant life change. Did you think through the new course of action for months or years, or did it come about after an unforeseen event changed the way you view your life?
If you finally decided to take a risk and become vulnerable in a relationship, was it attributable to months of self-analysis or did this emotional breakthrough follow your meeting someone who made you feel both safe and inspired enough to love again?
If you made a career change, what pushed you over the edge to let go of the familiar and leap into the unknown? Was it months of self-introspection, or a rupture in a key office relationship, or both?
While your thoughts “set the stage” for a significant life change, a strong move by one of the actors is often necessary for it to come to fruition.
Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).