On the last analysis, then, love is life.
Love never faileth and life never faileth so long as there is love.
--- Henry Drummond
There are times in our lives when our emotions can paralyze us.Just as your work efforts are punctuated by periodic breaks to renew your energy so you do not become miserable and unproductive, you can approach your grief in the same way—alternately engaging with and detaching from it until it gradually becomes more manageable.
Perhaps the emotion you feel is grief for a family member that has recently passed. Remind yourself that you only feel this devastated because you loved this person so deeply.
It is important to remember that the person you’ve lost would not want you to be consumed with such pain. They would want you to live rather than merely exist in this way.
You are doing them no favors by using them as a pretext to become paralyzed and to discard the valuable days of life that remain.
If working through your grief and still being a happy person is a goal for you—and I hope it is—just like any other goal or result you want in your life, you will only attain it by letting it go and focusing on the process.
The process is to continually acknowledge as much of the grief as you can manage.
When you feel you are saturated for the time being and will lose your balance if you internalize any more, it’s time to engage in another activity.
You will know when you are feeling balanced and stable enough to work through more of your sorrow.
Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).