Monday, May 7, 2018

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Create the Intimate Relationship You Desire

I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. 
I make mistakes, I am out of control 
and at times hard to handle.
But if you can't handle me at my worst,
then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.
--- Marilyn Monroe

What is your path to meeting the right person? To go out to bars and clubs? Alternatively, is it to take part in activities (alone or with others) that you naturally enjoy and help you build a stronger sense of who you are?

“Doing things I enjoy sounds well and good,” you may be thinking, “but while others are working on their love for themselves, I’m going to be out meeting people and bringing a real relationship into my life.”

If you don’t think building your relationship with yourself is that important, let me ask you a question: Would you prefer to meet someone who is needy and dependent because they haven’t cultivated their relationship with themselves, or someone who is strong, stable, and comfortable in their own skin?

Which person is more likely to choose to spend time with you because they value you for who you are, not for what you can provide to them that they can’t provide themselves?

This week, make a commitment to spend more time building your most important relationship―with yourself.

The more comfortable you are being alone, the more likely you are to make decisions from a stable place within where you are genuinely aware of the kind of person you desire and how to go about bringing them into your life.

Anthony Silard is the president of The Center for Social Leadership, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization based in Washington, DC and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week, enter your email here (1-step only). To support The Center for Social Leadership's Young Leaders Program for disadvantaged youth either directly or through purchases, click here.

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