Monday, October 22, 2018

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Create the Intimate Relationship You Desire

Going for what you really want, while a good principle to live by, in practice is scary as hell. One simple thought returns to your mind over and over again: “But what if I risk and fail?” 
The truth is you never fail. You learn. You grow.
If that’s failure, I’ll take it any day over its alternative: stagnation.
--- Anthony Silard

How has your track record been in terms of meeting the right person? When you go out, do you sometimes want to approach someone, but then stop dead in your tracks out of fear?

Success doesn’t smile on the bold only for large, cosmic reasons. There’s also a very logical explanation.

Taking small risks builds your self-esteem, which enables you to take larger risks.

Even a small risk such as walking up to someone and asking how they are doing expands your self-trust. This happens not because of the risk itself, but because the risk enables you to experience the wonderful feeling of alignment—of observing yourself commit an action, no matter how small, that’s consistent with what you value.

Feeling that alignment and the inner courage it took to make it happen will build your self-esteem and become the cornerstone of your success.

This week—whether it’s to hopefully make a new friend or meet the right person—go up to someone new and ask them how they are doing. If they are not responsive, reboot and try again with someone else.

Anthony Silard is the president of The Center for Social Leadership, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization based in Washington, DC and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week, enter your email here (1-step only). To support The Center for Social Leadership's Young Leaders Program for disadvantaged youth either directly or through purchases, click here.

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