Don't walk behind me; I may not lead.Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow.
Just walk beside me and be my friend.
Do you sometimes feel frustrated or disappointed that someone you thought was a good friend doesn’t take the time to call you back, or no longer seems to make you a priority in their life?
Sometimes we develop an idea in our mind of someone who is supposed to be our “best” friend or one of our closest friends. Then a period begins where they don’t return our calls or make much effort to see us. We wonder why they are avoiding us. We feel sad, rejected, and lonely.
Yet it is the nature of friendships to ebb and flow. Sometimes a friend needs space to grow, to distance, to become more independent without us around.
Perhaps you have a caring partner and they don’t. Perhaps you have children and they don’t. Perhaps your children are well-adjusted and theirs aren’t. Perhaps you have a job you love and they are stuck in a dead-end job that is slowly and methodically killing their spirit.
Friends are always making social comparisons with each other. There are 101 reasons why friends sometimes need space and sometimes need proximity. For this reason, the social distance between you and a friend is a constantly shifting parameter.
Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).