To love abundantly is to live abundantly,
and to love forever is to live forever.
--- Henry Drummond
All of us experience profound grief at various times in our lives. The passing of a loved one, a miscarriage, a break-up—unfortunately, difficult events are or at some point will be a part of all of our lives.
When we feel grief after the passing of someone we deeply love, it is not possible to process all of it at one time.
Consider the alternative: if you hadn’t had such strong feelings of love, you wouldn’t feel much grief.
As hard as it may be to do, push yourself to access the deep gratitude that lies within. Be thankful you had the opportunity to love, to feel such deep caring, to develop such a meaningful relationship.
Despite how challenging it feels to do, try to shift your powerless feelings of loss to powerful feelings of gain—toward an appreciation of how fortunate you are to have been blessed by this person’s presence in your life.
The alternative—no relationship; no love; no loss—is unfathomable.
Make a vow to yourself, when you feel able, to genuinely express love in each of your relationships and to fill your life only with relationships that provide a repository for the love within you and allow it to flourish.
Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).