Friday, August 20, 2010
So many of us believe the right things, want to say the right things and truly want to be empathetic, nurturing and authentic in the way we interact with others. But, are we always successful?
Communication is learned not by theory, but by practice:
Compassionate Communication Workshop Series
September and October!
Space is limited so sign up today!
The Compassionate Communication Workshop Series focuses on three core skill areas, each vital and necessary for healthy communication:
1) Listening with empathy (Detecting the unmet needs within the other person)
2) Speaking with authenticity (Identifying and sharing your own unmet needs)
3) Holding your anxiety (Letting go of the expectation that your needs will be met within your preferred time-frame)
Please click here for the program details: http://www.execleaders.com/index.php?lengua=eng&pagina=main&subseccion=1263325635
Session Dates and Times for the September How to Use Compassionate Communication to Create the Relationships You Desire Three-Evening Workshop Series - Live in Arlington, VA (across Key Bridge from Washington D.C.)
Thursday, September 9: 6 - 8 pm
Tuesday, September 14: 6 - 8 pm
Tuesday, September 21: 6 - 8 pm
Session Dates and Times for the October How to Use Compassionate Communication to Create the Relationships You Desire Three-Evening Workshop Series - Live in Cleveland Park, Washington D.C.
Thursday, October 21: 6 - 8 pm
Tuesday, October 26: 6 - 8 pm
Tuesday, November 2: 6 - 8 pm
For more information on this workshop series and how to register, click on http://www.execleaders.com/index.php?lengua=eng&pagina=main&subseccion=1263325635 or contact Program Director Hannah Kahl directly at firstname.lastname@example.org
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
For those of you who would like to develop your listening skills, I suggest you watch this 30-min. video of Carl Rogers, the father of client-centered therapy, in action. These interviews with ‘Gloria’ are very revealing. (They will also take you back to the 60s…) Please note how Rogers refuses to give her the answers, and instead applies an approach of knowing the right questions to ask so that Gloria – a woman who is recently divorced and wrestling with the decision of telling her daughter she is sleeping with another man – can come up with her own answers. Rogers was way ahead of his time, and his approach can be applied in both your personal and professional life, in any interaction where you want to help the other person to realize the power within them.
This difference – between ‘bringing’ a solution yourself and ‘bringing out’ a solution from within the other person – has far-reaching implications for how we perceive power, individual choice, and love. When we love someone in a way that is free from attachment, then our love manifests in our desire to help the person progress along their path toward their goals. When love is mired in attachment, we can’t handle emotionally the thought of the other person becoming independent – even as (hopefully, if we desire a relationship with them) a step toward interdependence – so instead we make suggestions that keep the other person doing what we desire them to be doing, which makes us controlling and creates co-dependency.
The Carl Rogers videos: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBkUqcqRChg
(They are in 5 parts, one should give you a link for the next; just in case,
here's part 2: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m30jsZx_Ngs
part 3: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RX_Y3zUPzEo
part 4: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zHxl5NtcDow
part 5: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L19nXMvbS8E
If your time is short, I recommend skipping Rogers' explanations of what he's doing and just dive into the interview - what he is doing will become apparent quickly.)
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