Monday, September 26, 2011

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Build Meaningful Relationships




It’s better to not get what you want and act with integrity
than to get what you want and not act with integrity.

--- Anthony Silard

When you deliberately engage in actions such as not holding your company to environmental standards (taking the right of people to live in a healthy world) or demeaning a coworker (taking their right to be treated with respect), you end up hurting yourself. How does this happen? Your self-image evolves in the direction of your actions. You see yourself as someone who takes from rather than gives to others, as someone who has a negative impact on the people around them. As a result, your self-image suffers, and you lower the level of treatment you will accept from others. Why would you accept such treatment? You feel you are receiving what you deserve. This unconscious meritocracy is very real and present within each of us (with the exception of some extreme cases such as sociopaths, who can act without an overarching conscience) and sets the floor and ceiling of your existence. In other words, it determines the bandwidth of the love you will allow yourself to receive from others. It is the concrete explanation of the old saying “What goes around comes around.” Reflect on a time in your life when you acted with integrity, even at the cost of a short-term goal or desire. Also recall a time when you placed your immediate interests above what you knew was right for others. What were the outcomes of these two critical moments in your life? How did they influence your self-esteem and inner strength? Now meditate on how you have been acting toward others over the last few months. Ask yourself this question: “What has come first—my desire to get what I want, or my deeper conviction to act with integrity?” Envision how you will act going forward to assimilate the integrity you need to fill your life with the relationships you desire.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, September 19, 2011

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become a More Effective Leader




Leadership is the capacity to build relationships
toward a common purpose.

--- Anthony Silard

The word “company” is derived from com (with) and panis (bread), and literally means “to break bread with.” A company is nothing more than a set of relationships. As these relationships are constructed, so is the company or organization constructed. Unaware of this dynamic, many people explode at others and burn bridges when they feel anxious or frustrated. Alternatively, they don’t deliver what they commit to, which erodes trust and, consequently, the very relationships they need to generate long-term success. How do you define a healthy relationship? What behaviors characterize such a relationship? Picture yourself twenty years from now, and the type of relationships you want your life to be filled with. Describe these relationships so clearly that you can feel, smell, touch them. Write down how you will have to act to create them. Also note which actions you will have to avoid, even when your mood du jour insists otherwise. Now consider the important relationships you will need to build to create the company, organization, volunteer group, school club, family, or political campaign you’ve been dreaming about for years. Get started this week creating the relationships that will enable you to live the life you desire.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, September 12, 2011

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Live the Life You Have Imagined




Never forget that your computer was designed by programmers living within the constraints of humankind’s current level of knowledge.
--- Anthony Silard

What you love to do is much more than crunching numbers or committing everyday procedures to memory. All the facts that you memorize can also be memorized by someone willing to work for 10 percent of your salary in a nation far, far away. They can probably even be memorized by a computer. Yet while knowledge can be outsourced, wisdom can’t. Thanks to information technology networks that span the globe, knowledge has more reach than ever before, although not necessarily more depth. Take some time this week to attune to what your heart responds to, what most motivates you and makes you feel content with your life, and how you want to spend the days you still have left. Ask yourself a few times per day, “What do I feel like doing right now?” Then allow your feelings to pour out and reveal what you truly enjoy. Also ask: “What is the impact I deeply want to make in society?” and “How do I want the world to be different as a result of my life?” Put aside the what-I-should-be-doing voice that drones on incessantly in your mind, and listen to the what-I-feel-like-doing voice that emanates simply and clearly from your heart. This is the only path to a career that will sustain you.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Balance Work and Life




If you chase two rabbits, both will escape.
--- Old proverb

What is the one thing in your career that you will never sacrifice? How about in your intimate relationship or marriage? What is the most important thing that defines what you and your partner are creating that you will always stand up for and honor? How about in your family relationships? Your friendships? Whatever is most important to you, schedule it first. If other things don’t get done, so be it. Identify the one thing you will do your level best to make happen, day after day. Visualize what you most want in your life, and then start making decisions that move your life in its direction. It really is that simple. To transform what you most desire into your reality, you must maintain a laser-like focus on attaining it – and do it first. I have observed that many people schedule what’s most important to them late in the day. When you do this, the chances of it not happening are high, as other things come up or take longer than you think. The message here is straightforward and yet elusive for most of us: Whatever you value most, go and do it. Then work your way down in terms of priority to your other tasks.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).