Monday, January 30, 2012

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become a More Effective Leader




Character is the foundation of leadership not only because it’s the
primary indicator of how others respond to you, but because it’s
the primary indicator of how you respond to you.
--- Anthony Silard

You internalize a self-image based on how you behave toward others. When you act with integrity, you feel like a decent and worthy person, and you set the bar high for the treatment you will accept from others. In The Kite Runner, Khaled Hosseini shares the ancient Afghan wisdom that there are many ways to take what belongs to others. When you cheat, you take the other person’s right to be treated honorably. When you steal, you take their right to a livelihood. When you lie, you take their right to the truth. When you harm someone emotionally or physically, you take their right to emotional or physical health. Whether you act deliberately or not is very important. Despite our best efforts, we all unconsciously take what belongs to others in some of these ways. We should not allow our transgressions to affect our self-image as long as we learn from our actions and commit ourselves to act in healthier ways in the future. Pick a situation at home, in a friendship, or at the office and ask yourself whether you acted with integrity. If you received a lot of support from others on a crucial project, did you give them the credit they deserved, or did you jump into the limelight and not look back? If you made a promise to someone and then later wished you hadn’t, did you honor your word or at least reset their expectations before it was too late, or did you find a way to prevent them from receiving what they had coming to them? In every way large and small, in every single moment of your day, you choose whether to practice integrity.
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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Friday, January 27, 2012

Are the Internet and Social Media Making Us Happier? Anthony Silard's Upcoming Interviews with Voice of America and Radio Disney

Do you think that computers, the internet and social media are contributing to our happiness?

I'll be recording interviews with Voice of America on Monday and Radio Disney on Tuesday on this subject. Please share how you feel about this question with me and our community. If you can, please provide a concrete example or two of how technology is making you either happier, more miserable, or both.

Thursday, January 26, 2012

Anthony Silard Interview with Moe Abdou on 33 Voices


I enjoyed speaking with Moe last week, many insights from The Connection in this interview.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, January 23, 2012

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Live the Life You Have Imagined




Do it and then see it.
--- Anthony Silard

Dimitri, an investment banker in his early forties, arrived early as usual at his office on the fiftieth floor of the South Tower of the World Trade Center on the morning of September 11, 2001. Just before nine, a plane hit the North Tower. He immediately headed for the exit and began running down the stairs. Two security guards confronted him and ordered him to return to his office and stay calm. After sitting at his desk for a few minutes, he walked back into the hallway, snuck into an elevator with a few friends, descended three floors, returned to the stairwell and exited the building. The decisions you make at times that demand rapid and effective action help clarify what you truly value. Dimitri had very little time to decide whether to follow his instincts or subordinate them to authority. How would you have acted in Dimitri’s shoes? I can assure you that Dimitri reviewed and questioned his life priorities many times over after recovering from this eventful moment that called forth everything inside him. In which area of your life do you need to take action this week? What is the writing on the wall you’ve been refusing to read? Pick a situation and ask yourself if you’re in motion or paralyzed. If you’ve met someone you like, are you getting to know them or convincing yourself that—like all the others—they don’t score well on all forty-three of the preferences you’ve meticulously outlined in your “Compatibility List”? Get to know them more and number thirty-eight may diminish in importance. If you’re experiencing moments of revelation about a new web site you want to develop, are you making a blueprint or telling yourself that you don’t have time.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Friday, January 20, 2012

Busy Weekend - TV Interview on WBAL (NBC's Baltimore Affiliate) 9:15 Sat. Morning Then Book Launch Party in DC on Sunday

If you're in or near Washington, D.C., please join us from 5 - 7 pm Sunday evening at Busboys & Poets (14th and V Street location) to launch my new book The Connection, just published by Simon & Schuster. Here's the evite so you have the info, but there's no need to reserve, just come join us.

It's a free event and I'll be donating all the book proceeds to scholarships for low-income youth to participate in a youth leadership program. If you can't make it, please check out The Connection on amazon.

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Some Good Leadership Book Recommendations for Nonprofit Leaders


Hope you enjoy these leadership book recommendations from Patrick Lawler, CEO of Youth Villages. Lawler also shares some good ideas around strategic planning.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, January 16, 2012

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Create the Intimate Relationship You Desire




What got you here
won’t get you there.
--- Marshall Goldsmith

In no area of our lives does our daily process—how we go about this thing called life—hit a more significant inflection point than in relationships. In most areas of your life, what you did yesterday provides at least decent preparation for what you have to do tomorrow. For example, you use many of the same skills you refine during the job search—task completion, writing concise letters, conversing with various people about your field of interest, keeping steady working hours—once you land a job. Yet the skills you hone while dating—quickly sizing people up and comparing them to your idealized image of a partner; learning how to weather rejection; gracefully exiting when you lose interest or the other person starts acting too this or too that; pretending you understand the names of esoteric vegetables that appear on menus at restaurants you would never choose to endure or spend your money on alone—yield virtually no benefit in a committed relationship. There are new skills to learn once you take the leap into partnership: how to keep your mouth shut; how to handle not getting what you want all the time; how to develop a common vision for a shared future with another human being. While the skills that permit a thriving dating life center around individual gain, the skills that enable an intimate relationship focus on collective benefit. Once you cross the line from dating into a relationship, the first set of skills—which you have spent a lifetime developing—no sirven (“don’t serve you,” in Spanish). These skills become like extra limbs that obstruct your movement and must atrophy if you are to evolve. You become the revolutionary who must put their arms down and learn how to govern. Take some time to reflect this week on where you are in the intimate area of your life, and where you want to be. Then come up with a list of skills you will need to develop to get there. Make a few changes to your weekly schedule—such as taking a communications course, volunteering, or doing anything that helps you focus on others rather than yourself—to help you refine these skills.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Thursday, January 12, 2012

The Global Leadership Institute on Twitter

Check out the new Twitter feed for The Global Leadership Institute @LeadGlobalOrg
This will be an excellent leadership resource.

The Decision To Visit My Father

Just before Christmas, my wife Karla and I were thinking about the idea of visiting my father in Maui, but we weren’t sure about it because it was so far to travel from Washington D.C. I called my Dad and we talked about the idea, and then I said that I would need a few days to talk it over with Karla, that I couldn’t promise anything, but that we would think about it and liked the idea.

Karla and I talked about it and decided it was just too far to go this time given the amount of time we had to rest from a busy year. I wasn’t looking forward to calling my Dad, as I knew he would be disappointed. Three days later, I called him.
           “How are you doing?” I asked.
           “We are doing well, just hoping that you have good news that you will be visiting us.”
           “I’m afraid that I don’t have good news, Dad. I think it’s just too far considering the time we have. We love the idea of visiting, but think it would be better for another time.”
           Without missing a beat, my father replied, “You must feel tired, you have been working so hard and also juggling so much with your upcoming book release and all the other things going on in your life.”
           “Exactly. We really want to come, but it’s also our first holiday season in our new home, and we want to spend some time here and just wind down from a busy year.”
           “You have been doing so much, I am sure you are looking forward to a break,” my Dad replied.
           After a few more minutes of conversation, I hung up the phone and Karla and I went for a walk.
          
           “My Dad was so sweet,” I told Karla. He was so understanding and compassionate about our situation.” I felt my heart full with my father. I also started to feel a compelling desire to visit him.
           “Your father is such a nice person,” Karla said. “Maybe we should go spend some time with him.”
           I looked at her, and we both knew something had changed; something we had to honor.
          “My father has learned what I have been teaching about communication,” I shared. “He’s beaten me at my own game.” I shook my head, and we both laughed. 

An hour later, we were back at home, booking our flight to Hawaii. 

It was one of the best trips we’ve ever had. I felt really connected with my Dad. He was fully present, which is what I, and all of us, want more than anything from the people we love.

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Article about finding your passion in The Journal Star


This recent article in The Journal Star (Peoria, IL) shares some of my approach to finding your passion, and why it's so important in this economy.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Book Launch Party on Jan. 22nd!

My book The Connection with Simon & Schuster was just launched yesterday. Hope you can join us for the book launch party on the 22nd!

You're invited to Book Launch Party: Anthony Silard's The Connection - Click here to RSVP 

Monday, January 9, 2012

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Build Meaningful Relationships




If the truth carries intelligent people away, let them go;
the faster the better.
---  Swami Vivekananda

The greatest gift you can offer to the world is to be your authentic Self. Not authentic in the sense of, “I’ll become an open book, let it all hang out, and express myself for the sake of expressing myself.” Authentic meaning: “I’ll express myself with purpose.” As you learn to speak up more about how you truly feel, some people will stray from the more genuine version of you. Not appealing? Consider the alternative: keeping them by the side of someone you no longer recognize. You always have the choice to speak assertively about what really matters to you or remain silent and let others have their way. Make a commitment to become more genuine and honest with others about what you value and you will find that your relationships become more fulfilling and your life more meaningful as others remove their kid gloves and learn how to relate to the real you. As you practice voicing what you truly want, there will come a day when you catch a brief glimpse of the tremendous potential for self-realization lurking within you brought out by the simple act of finding the right words to express your deeper thoughts and feelings. While asserting yourself courts more risk (once your ideas are acted upon, more fingers will point toward you if they don’t bear fruit) it is precisely these daily risks that demonstrate and build your capacity—most importantly, to you; and then to others—to create the relationships, family, company, team, or initiative you desire. This week, practice speaking up about what’s important to you with someone with whom you feel comfortable and have a healthy relationship. Then gradually apply your assertiveness skills in more challenging conversations.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).