Monday, August 27, 2012

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become a More Effective Leader


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While most people go through life,
 leaders grow through life.
--- Anthony Silard

When you’re finished growing, you’re finished. To truly embrace resilience, you must adopt a mindset that expands rather than shrinks when exposed to change. The astronaut who led the first space mission to fly around the moon, Frank Borman, perceptively declared, “We have to earn our wings every day.” Do you put new strategies into practice every day to earn your wings all over again, or do you sit back on your laurels and just hope what you did yesterday will work again today? What got you here is unlikely to get you there. Leadership is an eternal journey of self-reinvention. The only way you will know that you haven’t arrived at your destination is if you think you already have.

Take a moment to recognize the writing that’s been etched on the wall for some time indicating you must make a significant change to how you approach your career, or how you manage people, or how you relate to your spouse, or how you develop your relationships with your kids, or even how you handle—or are handled by—your smart-phone or laptop. After taking stock of what you know has been true for some time, commit to making some concrete changes so you can start growing again.

How do you keep growing in your personal and/or professional life? Tell us about it in the comments.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).


Monday, August 20, 2012

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Balance Work and Life


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Happiness is what arises within you when you take
the lead 
in the perennial battle between mood and meaning.

--- Anthony Silard

Do you have a larger life Vision that inspires you so deeply it actually affects how you feel every day? Alternatively, are you at the whim of your fleeting moods? The more you develop your relationship with your guiding values and higher Self, the more meaning you will derive from this relationship, and the more this sense of meaning—rather than a short-term mood of anger, jealousy, insecurity, or sadness—will become the foremost engineer of how you feel in any specific moment. This way of thinking counter-intuitively suggests that the more time you dedicate to this inner detour of reconnecting with your life Vision, the more comfortable your lead will become in the race between mood and meaning, and the happier you will become as a human being.

Take some time this week to take this inner detour and see where it leads you. Contemplate the level of meaning you derive from your career and most important relationships (beginning with your relationship with yourself) and how this sense of meaning affects your holistic outlook on life and your desire to truly experience and relish each moment with all of your being. Then compare the feelings generated from your sense of purpose with the ups and downs generated by your short-term moods, and ask yourself honestly which most prominently dictates how you feel from moment to moment. Leverage this learning to design some new strategies to encounter more meaning in your life.

What strategies help you to gain ground in the perennial battle between mood and meaning? Share them with us in the comments.


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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).


Monday, August 13, 2012

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become Your Greatest Fan


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The issue is not the pain you’ve been through. 
The
issue is how you relate to the pain you’ve been through.
--- Anthony Silard

Befriend your pain, or the pain you’ve seen others experience, and you will receive a tremendous gift: a sense of purpose. Never again will you count the minutes until you go home on the clock at work or in class. Gone will be the days when you felt lost and confused about your life’s mission. You will wave good-bye to all the negative vices and self-recriminations that stem from an inner aimlessness. Why? Because once you acknowledge the suffering you’ve experienced in your life, you will have the necessary raw material to discover your passion, which will be to prevent yourself and others from experiencing more of this suffering. (This is why the word passion is derived from the Latin verb patire, which means “to suffer”.)

Make a commitment this week to re-engineer your relationship with your suffering. Instead of running or hiding from your suffering a minute longer, transform it into a friend who has shown up in your life to help you learn and grow; a friend who will guide you irrevocably toward your purpose, if only you allow him or her to assume this role. The alternative is to spend the rest of your days avoiding this friend and burying yourself in work, your computer, alcohol, shopping, or any of the other common escape hatches readily available in today’s society. The choice is yours.

How do you relate to the suffering you’ve experienced in your life? Do you allow it to naturally convert into anger, or do you transform it into a passion to change its cause in your life and the lives of others? Tell us about it in the comments.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).


Monday, August 6, 2012

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Create the Intimate Relationship You Desire


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Logic is sword, all blades and no handle. 
It 
bleeds the hand that holds it.
--- Rabindranath Tagore

If you go out with a person who hits all the marks on your “compatibility checklist” (which your mind, not your heart, creates) but leaves you feeling empty, loveless, and ultimately lonely, you will walk away with nothing but guilt and emotional scars. Similarly, if you study business because you think it will impress others, or bring up a sensitive issue because you think it’s “due” even though you instinctively feel it’s not the right time, or make any other decision based exclusively on logic, you will succeed only in bleeding the passion and joy out of yourself.

If you are single, the next time you go out on a date ask yourself how you feel when you are with the other person before checking off how they fit with your preconceived preferences. Also reflect on other activities—with your family, friends, or on your own—that you enjoy and that bring good feelings into your heart. If you are married or in a long-term relationship, come up with an activity you can do with your partner this coming weekend that you both would enjoy based on what’s brought happy and positive feelings into your lives in the past. During the activity, or right before or after, give your partner a card expressing your feelings toward them. Regardless of whether you are partnered up or not, reflect this week on how you can bring your heart more into your life.

How do you integrate your heart into your dating life or your intimate relationship? Share your successes and challenges in this area with us in the comments.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).