Monday, November 26, 2012

Smile, It's Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Make a Difference in the World


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Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful,
committed citizens can change the world; 
indeed,
it’s the only thing that ever has.

--- Margaret Mead

The greatest social change I have ever witnessed firsthand has always come from the initiative of a few individuals. Every healthy community also functions well due to the determination of a few people who insist on doing what’s right and refuse to let things slip through the cracks. The same is true for organizations: accountability at the individual level is at the heart of every successful company or organization. What does all this mean? Your actions are extremely important. You can either perpetuate the status quo or transform it depending on whether you choose to merely exist in a life of comfort and mental numbness or to sacrifice short-term pleasure for a search for and willingness to act on what’s right and true. Change will not come to the world through sitting back and waiting for others to initiate it: change must come through you.

What can you commit to doing this week to be part of the solution, to helping to make this world a better place? What do you believe in so strongly that you have been waiting for the right time to act on? Wait no longer: make a pact with yourself to do something—anything, no matter how small—to move your life and this world toward what you know they can be.

How do you jump-start yourself out of complacency to do something for others? Tell us about it in the comments.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).


Monday, November 19, 2012

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Create the Intimate Relationship You Desire


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The only love that will save you 
is the
love that emanates from within yourself.

--- Anthony Silard

Love comes in many forms. Instead of insisting on it being in a different form than the form in which it is currently showing up in your life, recognize the love that is right here, right now, right in front of you. Who reaches out to you with an open, loving heart? Your father or mother? A sibling? Friend? Co-worker? The greatest and most unconditional love in your life will always come from within yourself. Yet love is always around you, only often not in the form you desire it in. The more you can recognize and then allow the love that is currently present in your life from others whom you may be taking for granted to permeate into your heart, the more your Self-love will grow. And if you want to meet the right person, or to have more genuine friends in your life, it is your love for yourself that will attract them and keep them around.

This week, take some time to detect the people around you who offer you love simply because they value who you are and what you add to their lives. Make a pact with yourself to spend more time with these people, to allow their love to influence your love for yourself, and to cultivate and cherish this love deep within your heart.

How do you cultivate your love for yourself? How does this Self-love influence your relationships? Tell us about it in the comments.


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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).


Monday, November 12, 2012

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Live the Life You Have Imagined


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Most people create a bar that’s too high for
themselves 
and then spend their life staring up at it.

--- Anthony Silard

A client once told me he has to exercise every day or he won’t do it at all. More CEOs than I can count have shared their plans with me to make a lot of money and then give most of it away after they retire. I tell them all that their goals are unlikely to happen. This is the tyranny of perfection. Waiting for any complete state before choosing to act is like waiting for snow in the Sahara. You never start because you always feel there’s more that must first be in place. If you were asked the question “Why are you so far behind in writing your thesis, or creating a new plan to improve your company, or completing a long-term project?” you might say, “I still have more information to obtain” or “I need to do more research” or “I still have to get it approved by so-and-so.” In other words, you would focus on what you don’t yet have instead of the specific actions you can take now to move closer to your goal. Alternatively, you may say to yourself, “I’m not ready yet. I have to be patient.”

If you don’t feel ready to pursue an important goal, do something this week to make yourself ready. Turn off your inner chatterbox—which is very adept at talking you out of going for what you truly want—and get started living the life you desire.

Do you sometimes create unrealistic goals? How do you balance ambition with pragmatism? Share your successes and challenges in this area with us in the comments.


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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).


Monday, November 5, 2012

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become a More Effective Leader


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The superior man is firm in the right way, 
and not merely firm.
-- Confucius

The right way is with empathy. Understanding the context of the other person. Conveying your feelings with language, facial expressions, gestures, intonations, and a sense of humor others can relate to so they truly hear you. When people interact with their leader, their primary need is to feel safe. When you first listen with empathy, you demonstrate that you value and respect the other person. Your genuine concern for the uniqueness of each person’s situation makes them feel protected by you as their leader, and expands their desire to understand what you are asking for and to help you accomplish it.

Make a commitment this week to practice more empathy with each person you interact with. Transform this goal into action by asking at least one question in each interaction you have about how the other person feels about something important to them. Once you start to elicit their true feelings, stay with them rather than responding autobiographically with, “I know what you mean, I often …” Keep the focus on them and open yourself to the most important education you will ever receive in your life: learning how to uncover the nuances and motivations of another human being.

How do you practice empathy in your daily life? Share your successes and challenges in this area with us in the comments.


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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).