Monday, December 30, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Balance Work and Life


Chaos in the midst of chaos isn't funny, 
but chaos in the midst of order is.
--- Steve Martin

Many decades ago, a struggling comedian made crazy jokes (chaos) while wearing long hair, a medallion, and an open, tie-dye shirt (more chaos). Steve Martin worked this shtick for fifteen years on the nightclub circuit with only moderate success. Then he made a huge transformation: he lost the hippie gear and put on a white suit (order) while making his jokes even crazier (chaos). Watching someone who looks like a normal guy at the office acting completely nuts took people over the edge. Martin hit critical mass, became the first comedian to sell out stadiums, and achieved unprecedented success in his field. His story provides a window into the need we have to balance order and change in our lives. Change without order lacks confidence and direction; order without change loses its relevance and importance to us. Think about how your work and life have been coexisting lately. Do you have more of a need for order or change? Have you been doing the same thing the same way for what feels like eons? Do you need to stretch yourself in your approach? Alternatively, do you leap before you look, and constantly jump from idea to idea without taking time to better assess their viability? Consider whether you err too much on the side of order or change, and write down a few strategies to practice this week to better balance your work and life.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, December 23, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become Your Greatest Fan


Your relationship with yourself is the basis for all your 
other relationships and everything 
you will ever accomplish in this world.

I would venture a guess that you choose to spend as little time as possible with people you don’t enjoy being around. If you don’t like Frank, you probably avoid spending time with him. Here’s a sobering parallel truth: if you don’t like yourself, you’ll avoid spending time with yourself. Yet you must be capable of comfortably spending time alone to create a vision for your life. This leads to a staggering conclusion: you must first love yourself if you wish to develop a life vision. Despite this reasoning, and that many of us find ourselves frequently moving in the wrong direction, or in no direction at all, we still neglect to make the most important investment of our time: into the development of our relationship with ourselves. Ask yourself, “Why is it that I have time for all the other demands my coworkers, parents, children, and friends heap upon me, but no time for myself?” Consider why you can schedule meetings with everyone except the one person with whom your relationship is the basis for all your other relationships: yourself. Make a pact with yourself this week to invest time in this vital relationship from which everything else in your life unfolds.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, December 16, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Build Meaningful Relationships


To build may have to be the slow and laborious task of years.  
To destroy can be the thoughtless act of a single day.
--- Winston Churchill

How do you treat others when you are in a bad mood, or dissatisfied with how they are acting, or not getting the results you want in your job? You only know how strong a dam is when water is trying to push it over. Likewise, you only know how much integrity a person has when you observe whether they treat people with decency and respect when they don’t feel like it, or one of their buttons has been pushed, or they don’t need the other person’s allegiance for their strategic aims. The next time you are at a restaurant on a first date, or meeting with a potential business partner for the first time, observe how the other person treats the server. Why? It’s how they will be treating you in six months. The next time you feel as if someone has treated you like yesterday’s meatloaf, follow Abraham Lincoln’s example and write an angry letter and then don’t send it. You will earn the trust and respect of others―and, ultimately, your own trust and respect―for valuing their dignity and humanity over your emotion du jour.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, December 9, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Create the Intimate Relationship You Desire


A person who is extremely hungry is not a
good judge of food. 
Make your important life decisions 
from a place of strength, not weakness.
--- Anthony Silard

When you are really hungry, you’re not a good judge of what you eat. Everything tastes good as you are fulfilling a primal need. Let’s apply this dynamic one step up Maslow’s hierarchy: suppose you are looking for an apartment. If you are uncomfortable with where you are currently living, are unable to sleep, or your landlord is threatening to throw you out, the first apartment you see will look appealing. In your desperation, it is easy to oversee that the apartment is actually not at all in the location you are seeking, or that it’s exposed to too much street noise. Now visualize another scenario: you like your current apartment but feel that it’s not the ideal long-term place for you to live. You calmly visit about fifteen apartments, and finally settle on one. Let’s apply this metaphor to the need for intimacy. This need is higher order than the need for food or shelter, yet sometimes can feel even more urgent and pressing. The next time you consider going on a date, ask yourself how hungry you are. If you are starving for affection, you are likely to select the first potential mate who comes along, and then later wonder how you could have been so blind to what you truly desire in a partner. Whether you are looking for an apartment, a person to share your life with, or a new career, take a few days to sleep on an important decision and return to the stable place within where you know what’s right for you. 

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, December 2, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Live the Life You Have Imagined

It’s not the cards you’re dealt in life that count,
but how you play ‘em.
--- Anthony Silard

Have you heard this story about two brothers? One is a drug user, is physically and verbally abusive toward his wife and children and has been unemployed for a number of years. Someone asks him, “Why are you like this?” He replies, “My father was an alcoholic.” The other brother does not drink or use drugs, is a devoted husband and father, enjoys his job and is a thoughtful person who often volunteers to help disadvantaged people in his community. The same person asks him, “Why are you like this?”  He responds: “My father was an alcoholic.” The moral of this story: we choose both the lens through which we see the world and the actions we generate from it. For anyone to feel empowered in life, they have to make decisions and choose a course of action from moment to moment that is right for them―choices and actions aligned with their deepest values and passion. Every successful person I’ve ever worked with―independent of their beginnings or the challenges they’ve had to handle along the way―has taught me that we don’t choose the cards we are dealt in life, but we do choose what we do with them. Now I ask you this challenge question for the week: “Why are you like this?”

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, November 18, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become a More Effective Leader




Tell them what you want,
reward them for giving it to you,
and get out of the way.
That’s my strategy in a nutshell.
--- Gordon Bethune, former CEO, Continental Airlines

In today’s economy, we employ ‘knowledge workers.’ They control the means of production – their knowledge. They become valuable by occupying a specialized niche of knowledge and developing it further than anyone else. You can’t do the same work your employees – the knowledge workers – can do any more than the art gallery owner can paint a masterpiece, or the NFL manager can run a football through a strong defense, or the hospital CEO can perform a heart transplant. Those tasks are the specialized functions of the artist, the running back and the surgeon. Yet you have to lead these people. Your role is to inspire them to achieve spectacular results, to standardize and measure those results, to let them know the score (e.g. who has brought in what results) and to reward those who have scored high. Write down a few ways of interacting with your team members that will bring out the unique creativity of each individual and inspire them to apply their ingenuity toward achieving your collective goals.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, November 11, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Build Meaningful Relationships



Strike when the iron is cold.
--- Harriet Lerner

If you are crossing the street, do you walk when there are a lot of cars speeding in front of you, or do you wait until they pass? Just as you wouldn’t cross a street if there were cars racing through it, don’t express how you feel when the other person has strong emotions of anger, irritation, insecurity, jealousy or fear racing through their body. Each emotional charge the other person feels is like a car. If you want to get your point across, wait until the coast is clear. Allow their strong emotions to pass. Once they do, they will be ready to hear you again; but not until then. If you have spent time in Hawaii, you know there are times when the waves are too rough to swim. Like the cars on a busy street, the waves are also like the other person’s negative emotions. Being authentic about how you feel is an attempt to get your needs met. When the other person is experiencing a strong negative emotion, they become disconnected from their authentic Self, defensive, and unwilling to meet your needs. Be patient. The waves will subside, and the ocean will become calm again. Then it will be a good time to go swimming. Be attentive this week to the emotions of the people around you. Use your good judgment and attunement to their emotional state to determine the right time to once again be assertive about what you need.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, November 4, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Live the Life You Have Imagined




Passion gets you out of the starting gate,
but not across the finish line.

--- Anthony Silard

Passion alone is not enough to achieve our goals. We also have to be strategic. As I see it, there are three goals of work: to do good (create a social impact), do well (generate revenues that enable us to earn a decent livelihood and continue doing our work) and do right (treat our team members and customers with dignity and respect along the way). To achieve these three goals in the third millennium, we must recognize that we now live in a society rooted in the intersection of knowledge and passion. To survive and thrive, you must corner a specific niche of knowledge that has a high barrier to entry (i.e. that no one else has or can easily obtain) and utilize this knowledge to serve a strong customer need. Yet regurgitating knowledge alone doesn’t work; it must emanate from your heart and tap the reserve of passion within you. To get started, identify the critical needs of a customer group that won’t go away anytime soon. In other words, name their pain. Then ask yourself this question: “How can I serve their needs in a way that I am personally, deeply passionate about and that applies specific, nuanced knowledge that I and I alone possess?” Brainstorm a few ideas this week to reflect upon as you consider the direction you want to move your career in.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, October 28, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become Your Greatest Fan




In school, you learn the lesson and are then put to the test. 

In life, it’s the opposite:
you are put to the test and then learn the lesson.

--- Anthony Silard

There is much irony in this disconnect between education and reality. In real life it’s constantly brand-new material, so there’s no reason to get down on yourself for making mistakes. As the Bohemian-Austrian poet Rainer Maria Rilke perceptively observed: “There are no classes in life for beginners; right away you are always asked to deal with what is most difficult.” Yet most of us are accustomed to using the word ‘failure’ in association with our performance. How did this start? We began judging ourselves from our first days in elementary school based on the marks our teachers gave us to indicate their perception of our performance; and we haven’t stopped since. When you received a ‘D’ or an ‘F’ on a test, you were told that you ‘failed.’ You have most likely perpetuated this internal line of reasoning – “When I don’t perform well, I am a failure” – to this day. Reflect this week on your self-voice – the procreator of your voice with everyone else. When you catch yourself in the act of beating up on yourself, stop in your mental tracks and remember that there’s no dress rehearsal for life, and the important thing is not whether or not you made a mistake, but whether you embraced the necessary learning to move further toward your goals.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, October 21, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Balance Work and Life

Priorities are like friends – if you have
too many you end up with none.
--- Anthony Silard

One of my clients once told me, “I’m just not able to say ‘No’ to my boss. I stay late at the office most nights to meet his expectations, and then return home late to my wife and children and don’t feel good about myself. They don’t feel good about me either.” To help him change his schedule, I first had to help him become aware that he was constantly making choices. Every minute after 6 pm, he was making the decision to stay at the office. Life is a series of choices, and what you choose creates your destiny. When you say ‘No’ to something, you are almost always saying a ‘Deeper Yes’ to something else. My client had to learn that to say ‘No’ to his boss was also to say ‘Yes’ to his wife and children; and, conversely, all the times he had said ‘Yes’ to his boss he had also been saying ‘No’ to his family. Another client became the ‘go to’ person in the office as she was not able to say ‘No’ to her employees requests for support throughout the day, and as a result was never able to progress toward her company’s larger strategic goals. Saying ‘No’ is particularly difficult for those of us who love to please others and crave their approval. Yet when you are unable to say ‘No,’ everything becomes your priority, which means nothing is your priority. Reflect this week on what you must learn to say ‘No’ to in order to say a ‘Deeper Yes’ to what you most value in your life.

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Anthony Silard is the president of
 The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, October 14, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Create the Intimate Relationship You Desire




Your desire should be not for desire,
but for the other person.

--- Anthony Silard

I understand this quote well because I’ve been there. I have felt the perilous self-doubt that follows the other person leaving in a relationship; the feelings of inadequacy, of aimless wandering and confused wondering about what I did wrong that never yield a conclusive lesson. I have desired to feel attractive again; have defined myself by the attention and approval I received from the opposite sex; have chased others for the love I couldn’t find within myself. We all have had our moments where we doubt ourselves and try to locate on the outside what we can’t provide ourselves on the inside. It never works. On your next date, ask yourself if the other person’s desire is to experience desire or to be with you for who you uniquely are. Ask yourself the same question about your own desire. We often use desire to get our emotional needs met as rapidly as possible, yet, like a farmer hastily throwing seeds onto the ground, we are unlikely to meet our expectations. A true emotional connection grows at its own (usually much slower) pace. We often accelerate into intimacy because it feels like we have to wait an eternity to feel intimate love once again. Be patient and also persistent. Put yourself out there: participate in group activities you will enjoy – such as hiking, skiing, bicycling, practicing Arabic or French, joining a philosophy discussion – whether you meet someone or not. (A great source of these activities is www.meetup.com.) When you least expect it, expect it: someone will come along whom you desire for who they are, not for the feelings about yourself that you futilely hope they will bring into your life, which will never come from an outside source.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, October 7, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become a More Effective Leader




Every great institution is the lengthened shadow of a single man.
His character determines the character of the organization.
--- Ralph Waldo Emerson

You must have character to inspire others to have character. I have observed the truth of this dynamic in organizations large and small: if the CEO is not direct with people and hides out in their office, the same behavior will be visible in almost every person in the company, silos will take over, and you won’t get a straight answer from anyone. If the CEO is supportive and nurturing in her approach yet resolute about achieving a clear set of goals, again you will find this behavior and attitude throughout the organization. So if you want to have people of values working for you, be a person of values. If you want to manage people who are sensitive to the needs of others, be sensitive to their needs. Treat your people with old-fashioned honesty, courtesy and decency, and they will be much more likely to treat your customers with old-fashioned honesty, courtesy and decency. Start this week by identifying a few values you want to actualize each day in the way you interact with others. At the end of the week, take a personal inventory of how well you’ve done. Continue this process each week to determine the values you most want to assimilate into your personal leadership style.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, September 30, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Build Meaningful Relationships




What you think should not always be what you say,
but what you say should always be what you think.
--- Anthony Silard

Sharing thoughts without a purpose is like driving without a direction: you can end up just about anywhere. Feeling obligated to communicate every thought that crosses your mind – whether it’s aligned with your Vision or not – is not being authentic. Why? A thought based on a temporary mood or a negative emotion such as insecurity, anger or fear, or a thought that would unnecessarily harm another human being, does not reflect your deeper, more intact Self – where your authenticity resides. Identify a person you would like to be authentic with this week. Plan your conversation in a way that enables you to be yourself – with purpose. Start with someone who is easier to talk to – consider it batting practice – and gradually work your way toward more challenging conversations with other important people in your life.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, September 23, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Live the Life You Have Imagined



I can’t stand to sing the same song the same way two nights
in succession, 
let alone two years or ten years.
If you can, then it ain’t music.

It’s close-order drill or exercise or yodeling or something, not music.

-- Billie Holiday

In 2007, Netflix had a lot to be proud of. Through an unprecedented, innovative, internet-based model of DVD ordering and mail delivery, it had virtually put Blockbuster (remember them?) out of business. Blockbuster took years to develop its own online presence for DVD rentals, and it hurt them irrevocably. By the time they had copied Netflix’s model, Netflix had already built inimitable brand equity through quick turnaround and high-quality customer service. Founded by Reed Hastings in 1997, Netflix’s revenues exploded from $5 million in 1999 to almost $1 billion in 2006. Blockbuster shrank from Goliath to David during the same period, and closed thousands of stores. Hastings remained agile: he knew it was just a matter of time before downloads replaced DVDs, and boosted spending on digital downloading research from $10m in 2006 to over $40m in 2007. The new Goliath triumphed: one year later, instead of moving to a new movie downloading startup, Netflix’s customers shifted to the company’s downloading plan in record numbers (Netflix’s current plans include free streaming of movies from the internet). Pick a current challenge you are facing in your life and ask yourself, “How can I play the ball not where it is, but where it’s going to be next?” Whether it’s a challenge you are facing at home or in the office, project yourself into the future. Envision the direction, based on current dynamics, that a product, initiative, or relationship is heading. Ask yourself what you can do now to embrace change and work toward the outcomes you desire later.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, September 16, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become Your Greatest Fan



If you want to become a leader on the outside,

you must first become a leader on the inside.
--- Chris, a student in The Center for Social Leadership's
Young Leaders Program

So many of us focus almost all our time on the results, desired outcomes and changes we want to see in our companies, organizations, schools, families and society. Yet we fail to realize that we can’t export abroad what we can’t produce at home. Visualize the person you want to become and how you want to treat others. Write down a few adjectives to describe how you would like others to perceive you. If you truly want to act this way toward others, start by acting this way toward yourself. Why? Because the voice you use with others is always the same voice you use with yourself, and vice-versa. Those who are self-critical will soon be criticizing you. Those who love themselves and believe in their ability to reach their highest potential will, if you are fortunate enough to win their hearts, love and believe in you. Whatever you want to be in the eyes of others, start being it in your own eyes. Not only will you achieve much more in your life, but you will be a much happier person along the way. Write down one thing you can do this week to develop the most important relationship in your life: your relationship with yourself.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, September 9, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Balance Work and Life



When you have been emailing or Facebooking or Skyping lots of people for hours 
and then you turn off your computer, the feeling you get is as if you’ve just had a party, 
everyone has left, and you are all alone – only you haven’t had the party.
--- Anthony Silard

Technology has turned most of us into people who live almost entirely in their minds. We compute, calculate and quickly ingest, process and regurgitate others’ ideas. It’s the pinnacle of the capitalist revolution: never before have human beings been so capable of attaching labels, numbers and images to the outside world. Never before has everything imaginable under the sun been so easy to identify, measure, codify and utilize for profit. If you put a prism in front of a rose, it begins to believe it’s the rose. If you put the same prism in front of a pile of cow dung, it takes on the appearance of the dung. Yet it is neither the rose nor the dung; it is the prism. We have begun to take on many of the qualities of the machines we sit hunched over for the better part of our waking hours – we process myriad piles of data in the form of emails, text messages, attachments and links; we make quick calculations and decisions as to what to give attention to and what to put into our queue; we complete function after function in an iterative, rapid-fire succession, quickly toggling from one to the next. This would all be well and good if one vital part of the human body was not being sacrificed, day in and day out: the heart. What activities can you engage in this week to reconnect with your heart? This is a very real and, in an existential sense, urgent challenge. Your humanness depends on it.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, September 2, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Balance Work and Life



People often tell me, “I don’t have the time to exercise.”

I always reply: “You don’t have the time not to exercise.”
--- Anthony Silard

In Catholicism, the custom of “tithing” was to give 10 percent of one’s income to the church. Many people give a percentage of their time to volunteer for a worthy cause in their community. We can apply the same concept toward our bodies. In today’s technology-laden world, you complete many tasks that you used to have to stand up and move around to accomplish without even leaving your desk. Yet our bodies weren’t created to be stationary for such protracted periods of time. Lie in bed for a few days without getting up and what happens? You get “bedsores.” What are the long-term effects of sitting in your chair for hours on end in front of a computer? You have 168 hours in every week – 168 hours that you will never have the privilege of living again. Consider the emotional, physical and psychological benefits of devoting five of these hours – one hour per day for five days – to exercising your body, and how much more you will both enjoy and accomplish during the other 163 hours. Get started now by creating your exercise schedule for the week. Follow your exercise schedule as you do your schedule for eating, or sleeping, or brushing your teeth. You don’t skip dinner or decide not to brush your teeth if you are in a bad mood; apply the same thinking to exercise: it’s a necessary part of what makes your week flow and come together.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, August 26, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become a More Effective Leader


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Actions speak louder than words.
They also lie louder than words.

--- Anthony Silard

If you are in a leadership role, people scrutinize your every move. They are looking for character, integrity, and competence. Why? They want to feel secure that the ship will arrive at its destination, and that you will look out for their needs during the journey. When your character is stable and rooted in a burning desire to help others – whether it’s to provide health care to elderly people, or to design cutting-edge fashions that make people’s lives more beautiful, or to enable young people to build their self-confidence through athletics, or to raise children to be healthy, confident, compassionate human beings – you inspire loyalty in others. You help them feel secure that you are committed to reaching the destination they want to reach, and that you will have a strong hand at the helm. This is why they board your ship. Write down a few ways you can provide security and stability this week to the people in your office, on your team, or in your home.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, August 19, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Build Meaningful Relationships

Just because they say “Action” doesn’t mean you have to do anything.
--- Advice given by Al Pacino to Jesse Eisenberg, star of the 2010 film The Social Network

In a recent interview, Eisenberg shared that the veteran actor’s advice on a film set in 2005 “helped me think of acting as something that I was in control of.” What are some of the ways others say “Action” to you? You most likely deal with situations where others shout at you, push your emotional triggers, look at you expectantly, or try to guilt you into doing what they want. Pacino’s advice is extremely powerful: you don’t have to do anything. Your response can be no response. About fifteen years ago, I naively asked an elderly Vietnamese villager what the war was like. I have never forgotten his chillingly wise response: “I choose silence.” You, not others, are in control of your actions. No one else can climb a ladder into your brain and force your lips to move. Pick a situation that’s currently taking place in your life and ask yourself if your actions are originating from your inner wisdom or if they are re-actions, or ‘second actions’ determined by the ‘first actions’ of others. If you’re having the same old relationship argument for the 56th time this year, ask yourself how you will reconnect with your values and use compassion, empathy and assertiveness to move the relationship in a better direction. If you’re constantly defending yourself at work, consider how you will choose silence at times and let your performance do the talking. Whatever the situation, the next time your buttons are pushed, practice taking a pause, slowing down, and reconnecting with your deepest values before determining how you will or won’t respond.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, August 12, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Live the Life You Have Imagined




Spend your whole life earning money to pass on to
your children and they will spend it. 

Spend your whole life building character to pass on to
your children and they will keep it.
--- Anthony Silard

The most important thing you leave your children is not money, but your name. Project yourself to the last days of your life. What will you most wish for – that you had left your children more money, or that you had lived by values you believe in and had avoided certain actions that did not reflect the person you wanted to be? While they will spend whatever money is left in your bank account, they will keep their memories of you – of the values you stood for, the love you shared with them, the sacrifices you made on their behalf – forever. These memories will leave them with feelings of either strength and pride or bitterness and shame about their heritage. Write down some of the most important values that you wish to actualize every day of your life. How will you live these values this week?

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, August 5, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Balance Work and Life


People with no center move in all directions.
--- Anthony Silard

When someone has lost their center, they become what I refer to as “all sails and no anchor.” I know this term well because I’ve been there myself. When we are always on the move, we become like a car that never stops to refuel, and lose our ability to sustain ourselves during the journey. Life is a process of extending from the center and returning to the center. You extend from the center when you go out into the world, take risks, build relationships, and pursue your passion. You return to the center when you step away from all these activities, slow down, and reconnect with yourself. If you don’t take the time to return to the center, you continue extending further and further away from who you are. It becomes more and more difficult to retrace your steps and find your way back home. Balance the time you dedicate to whatever you are trying to accomplish in your life with regular periods of physical, emotional, social and spiritual renewal, and you will be pleasantly surprised with how much more directed, purposeful and, ultimately, successful – as you come to define success – you become. To get started, write down the word ‘CENTER’ in capital letters and underline it. Underneath, write down one physical, one emotional, one social, and one spiritual way of spending your time that helps you return to your center. Dedicate more time to these activities this week.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, July 29, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become a More Effective Leader




Peace if possible, but truth at any rate.
--- Martin Luther King, Jr.

MLK hails from a long list of leaders – including John F. and Robert F. Kennedy, Malcolm X, and Gandhi – whose lives were taken from them for voicing their beliefs. This list goes back literally to the dawn of time: we count humanity’s years on earth from the birth of a man, Jesus Christ, who was crucified at the stake for what he believed. The world’s most famous philosopher, Socrates, was forced to drink poison for his views. Cicero, the Roman statesman and philosopher who laid the foundation for our political system of democracy, was decapitated for his beliefs, his head and hands placed on the speaker’s forum in Rome. What is the price of authenticity for you? While it’s most likely not your life, it may be the comfort of your job, or the patronage of your clients, or the existing patterns of your relationships. Do you stand for anything so strongly that you would be willing to risk losing this comfort? Ask yourself what you truly stand for, and start making time this week to actualize it so your life starts moving on a path now that you can be proud of later.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, July 22, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Live the Life You Have Imagined




Persistence doesn’t mean insistence.
--- Anthony Silard

If you are returning home after work today and the road you usually take is closed, what will you do? Will you sleep on the street until your usual route is reopened? I don’t think so. You will find another way home. As the old saying goes, there are many roads to Rome. You can apply this same flexibility to how you achieve your personal and professional goals. Persistence is only a powerful tool when coupled with flexibility. To access its power, force yourself this week to see the writing on the wall, even if it’s not what you want to read. If you don’t get the results you want when you try to invent a new product, or work for social change, or improve a relationship, then change your approach. Not change meaning, “I will change what I’m trying to accomplish.” Change meaning: “I will change how I’m trying to accomplish it.” To access the power of persistence, launch a three-step process every time you come up short when trying to achieve a goal: first, stop to recognize why the strategy you tried didn’t work; second, apply this learning toward creating a new, innovative strategy; third, give the new strategy a shot. Note there is no step called “Feel Badly about Myself” or “Become Consumed with Self-Doubt.” To achieve your most important goals, persistence is necessary. Getting down on yourself is optional.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, July 15, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Balance Work and Life




No man is free who is not master of himself.

--- Epictetus

What is your long-term Vision for your physical and mental health? Exercise is not an end in itself, but a means to achieve your larger life goals. The question then, is what are your larger life goals with respect to your health? To help you figure them out, ask yourself these questions: “What do I want my body to look like ten years from now?” Even more importantly: “How do I want to feel about my body today and every day hereafter?” Also ask a few questions to determine the role of exercise in your life, such as “What are the effects of exercise, mediation, and yoga on my mind?”, “How do I feel about myself when I exercise regularly?” and “Am I here just to take care of others, or also to take care of myself?” In addition, think about the next generation by asking yourself these two questions: “What kind of example do I want to set for my present or future children with respect to how I take care of my physical and mental health?” and “How do I want them to view their health?” Your answers to some of these questions will help you craft your long-term Vision for the role exercise will play in your life. Once you have developed this Vision, design some concrete goals to put into place immediately to actualize it.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, July 8, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become a More Effective Leader




Imagine there are thousands of people standing on a pier, and dozens of ships heading out to sea. A leader is like the captain of one of these ships. If you want to become a leader, the question you need to answer is: “Why would anyone want to board my ship?”
--- Anthony Silard

The #1 feeling people look to their leaders to provide is security. Stability. Safety. The word “lead” comes from “to guide” or “to travel.” Consider an initiative you are trying to build that involves other people – such as a company, nonprofit, musical troupe or family. Whether it’s your employees, family members, musicians or customers, they all have three critical requirements you must fulfill if you want to lead them: first, that the ship is heading to where they want to go (you must inspire them with your passion for a Vision greater than yourself); second, that the captain – you – is trustworthy and capable of getting them there (you must be honest and act with integrity); and third, that you will treat them well during the journey (you must be empathetic to their needs). Which of these is your greatest challenge – passion, empathy or integrity? Come up with a few strategies you can practice this week to work on your challenge area and become a more effective leader.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, July 1, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Live the Life You Have Imagined




If you build it, they will come.

--- from the movie Field of Dreams

A friend of mine was looking for a new job, not an easy undertaking in a tough economy. Over dinner a few weeks ago, he said, “Tony, I know I’m in a dead-end job and I need to make a career change – for myself and for my family. I had an interview for a job I really want. I know I can do this job, and that it would be a great change for me. Yet the thing is, no matter what happens, I’m happy. I come home every evening to my wife and two kids, which is the most beautiful thing in the world. Everything else is extra. If I get this job – and I’m going to do my best to make it happen in this company or another one – great. Yet my happiness doesn’t depend on it.” Now I want you to imagine a man like this sitting across from you in an interview. Someone content in their own skin who radiates this inner stability. He is exactly the kind of person you want working for you, because he has the internal wherewithal to build positive momentum with the rest of your team and be loyal to your company. He called me a few days later to say he had been offered the position. To apply his way of thinking to your own life, consider what you want to attract into your life to feel successful. Now reflect on ways you can embrace and appreciate the beauty and love already filling your life, knowing that whatever you want that you don’t already have will be the beauty and love you already know, in another form. Remind yourself that what you seek you already have, in a different form, and use the feelings of power that emanate from these thoughts to unabashedly attract what you desire into your life.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, June 24, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Balance Work and Life


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If you want to achieve your most important goals as quickly as possible, slow down.
--- Anthony Silard

The only problem with rushing through life is we miss out on it. We also miss the deeper messaging that emanates from our hearts if only we are willing to slow down enough to listen to it. When you refuse to connect with your inner intuition, you head down the wrong path. Later, you expend a lot of time and energy switching back, retracing your steps and trying to rediscover the right one. If you want to achieve your life goals – whether they are to pursue the right career, or find the right partner, or create a successful business – a much wiser strategy is to give yourself some unstructured time each day for your thoughts to catch up with your actions. Otherwise, your actions so far outpace your ability to process them that you cease to recognize what you are doing, why you are doing it, and, ultimately, who you are. Schedule some unstructured time to just be this week, and remind yourself that you are a human being, not a human ‘doing’.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, June 17, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become Your Greatest Fan




Do you wish to be great? Then begin by being. Do you wish to rise? Begin by descending. 
The higher your structure is to be, the deeper must be its foundation.

--- Saint Augustine

To deepen your foundation, write down what you stand for, what you want to remembered for, and what you most value in your life. Based on what you have written, formulate some daily practices that will bring you closer to your higher Self – the voice within that guides you to “do the right thing,” independent of the consequences. Write down a few of these practices. Integrate these daily practices into your Vision Statement (my book The Connection includes a guide to creating your personal Vision Statement), a guiding document that describes who you are and what you stand for. By writing down what you value the most and referring to it once or twice per week – especially when stimuli in the external world (such as when you don’t get what you want in a situation or feel criticized by another person) are pulling you away from how you want to be as a human being – you increase your chances ten-fold of transforming your desired life into your reality.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, June 10, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Balance Work and Life




Success doesn’t come from aiming at success. 
Success comes from doing what you’re passionate about to the best of your ability.

--- Anthony Silard

The next time you are at the gym, focus on doing ten reps of any given exercise and watch what happens. You may achieve ten reps, but if you do it will most likely be with lousy form. Instead, try it this way: First, decide to aim for ten reps. Second, forget about the number ten and focus on your form. Do each rep slowly. Fully outstretch and then slowly retract your arm, leg, back or stomach while keeping your vertebrae in a straight, locked position and your head looking directly forward. You may only achieve seven or eight reps, but they will be performed with quality, you will be much less likely to pull a muscle or injure yourself, and you will increase your muscle tone and strength much more rapidly. To achieve your goals in exercise, as in life, briefly visualize what you want to accomplish and then expend 98 percent of your energies on what you will do to get there. To get started, set your exercise goals for the week. Then write down a few sentences about the techniques you will use to achieve them.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).



Monday, June 3, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Build Meaningful Relationships




There is only love – all else is illusion. 
At every moment, in every conversation you have ever been in or ever will be in, 
you and the other person are each either seeking love or expressing love.
--- Anthony Silard

We seek love in many ways, such as shouting, belittling, attempting to guilt someone into doing what we want them to do, manipulating, giving the silent treatment. Arguments happen when two people are seeking love at the same time. Our most intimate, loving moments – including “lovemaking” – happen when two people are simultaneously expressing love. Here is the key to effective communication: When the other person is seeking love, listen. Show empathy. Try to understand their needs. When they are expressing love, it’s your opportunity to be assertive, to get your needs met. In fact, it’s the only time when you can get your needs met, because it’s the only time when they will actually listen to you. Identify a person who has been a thorn in your side lately. The next time they get on your nerves, remind yourself that they are seeking love in their own way, yet are pushing it further away from them because they haven’t learned healthier ways to get their needs met. How can you lighten your position just a little bit, and help them to get the love they desperately need? Try this strategy – it’s the first step to filling your life with more loving, meaningful relationships.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, May 27, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become a More Effective Leader




Even a hunter cannot kill a bird which flies to him for refuge.

--- old Samurai saying

Leaders who act with integrity pay less attention to the latest political or economic calculus and instead focus on the human calculus. These leaders hail from all walks of life and hold positions ranging from CEO to service representative. Take Chiune Siguhara, the Japanese consul general in Kaunas, Lithuania in 1940. After the Nazi’s Blitzkrieg on Poland, Polish Jews fled to neighboring Lithuania. One of their only hopes for escape as the Nazis continued their takeover of Europe and closed in on Lithuania was to obtain transit visas to travel to Japan. Siguhara issued these visas despite many refugees not having passports or proper identification. Despite repeated orders from his superiors to stop, Siguhara issued over 5,000 transit visas. After he was fired from his position for insubordination by the Japanese government, he continued issuing transit visas until his last day, even handing the lifesaving documents from the window of his departing train. Meditate on the wisdom of the Samurai before moving forward on your next initiative. Instead of immediately pushing for what you want, ask yourself first, “What is the human calculus here?” Write down the effects of the various options on the human beings involved – your employees, customers, the people in your community – and then make your decision.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, May 20, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Balance Work and Life



There is no point in living if you can’t feel your life.
--- Mexican proverb

Our deepest motivations do not come from the instrument we over-use in our technologically-driven society (the mind) but from the other vital organ – the heart – that will atrophy if we continue to ignore it in the name of efficiency. When we stop feeling, we stop enjoying our lives. Determine some changes you can make to your schedule to reclaim your heart every single day. Go to a concert. Stop work at 6 and take a yoga class. Watch the leaves change. Make love with your partner more often. Free up unstructured time in your daily schedule to just be. The more you access the messaging that emanates from your heart each day, the more you will accomplish in your life and, even more importantly, the more you will enjoy what you accomplish. If you don’t feel joy from what you achieve, after all, what’s the point of achieving it? Write down a few changes to your schedule that will enable you to make a heart connection with yourself and/or others this week.

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Anthony Silard is the president of
 The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).












Monday, May 13, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Live the Life You Have Imagined


Most comedians have sick mothers.
--- Jim Carrey, comedian

I was struck when I heard the comic star make this comment in an interview. He shared how he spent a lot of time while growing up attempting to make funny faces to make his mother laugh, to cheer her up and ease her suffering. U2 front man Bono once said that no matter how large the crowd, every singer is always singing for one person. Who is the person you are trying to please, or make happy, or make proud of you? Everything we do is motivated by love. If you can distill whose love you are trying to win through your work, you can discover the roots of your passion. You can also determine what is causing you to become a workaholic and lose your balance. Why? Because you will never “win” anyone’s love; you only have to allow it into your life if it’s there, or move on with your life if it isn’t.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, May 6, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Balance Work and Life




Put yourself as a priority and you will discover that
the decrease in quantity 
to your time with others is more than
compensated for by the increase in quality.

--- Anthony Silard

The most formidable obstacle to taking time for yourself is yourself. If you want to make yourself a priority, my advice is simple: get out of your way. When you have thoughts such as, “Work is my only priority at this point in my life. I can’t think about anything else,” or “I’ll take time for myself once I have more experience. I have serious responsibilities now and can’t be a slacker,” or “I have to keep active to feel good about myself,” mark those thoughts as “Spam” and send them back to wherever they came from. Go deeper to understand the roots of your ignore-myself-and-get-it-done-ism. Ask yourself, “Where did those thoughts come from?” and “Why do I focus only on achieving and allow my life to pass me by?”

Many of these thoughts may emanate from your fear that if you take time alone you’ll lose touch with others and lose ground in your career. This week, make a concerted effort to question this fear. Ask yourself whether you will allow your fear of not being good enough to catapult you back to the Dark Ages when people worked incessantly to put enough food on the table. Even if you have very real survival needs and feel compelled to work two or three jobs, ask yourself some hard questions about the direction you are heading in and your long-term goals. Take into account that the moments you spend nurturing yourself and connecting with your heart increase your productivity and make your daily challenges surmountable and worthwhile.

How do you make yourself a priority in your life? Share your successes and challenges in this area with us in the comments.

Monday, April 29, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become Your Greatest Fan


 
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Seek not good from without: 
seek it within
yourselves, or you will never find it.
--- Epictetus

The primary reason you can accomplish anything that’s important to you is not your God-given talent, but your belief that you can. I’ve seen this happen over and over again with the individuals I’ve coached and known in my personal life: the person who wins is not the one with the most innate ability, but the one who believes she will win. “But how can I believe in my capabilities when the evidence is stacked up to the contrary?” you may ask yourself in your weaker moments. Does this mean you’ll gain self-faith when you have “the evidence” to back you up? Let’s destroy a common myth right here and now: you will never prove to yourself that you are a good and worthy person. When you try to prove your value, you focus on how others value you. Your focus is external; you seek good from without. You examine the outcomes in your life—how much money you earn, the approval you receive from others, the potential mates who desire you—and pin your self-assessment to whether they’re up or down.

This week, make a commitment to unhinge your self-opinion from the good opinion of others. The next time you perform less skillfully than you would have liked, or someone sends a neat little package of disapproval in your direction, remind yourself that your self-esteem and inner happiness are impervious to both whether you are generating specific results in your life and whatever anyone else has to say about you.

How do you attempt to prove your self-worth? Have you discovered some effective ways to stop trying to prove anything to anyone and to accept yourself as you are—independent of what you achieve? Share them with us in the comments.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, April 22, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Live the Life You Have Imagined


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Discipline is the practice 
of internal leadership.
--- Anthony Silard

Conjure up an image in your mind of a disciplined person. Do they do whatever they feel in the moment regardless of the consequences? Hardly. Do they blow up at their children, employees, or anyone else who doesn’t live up to their expectations? Not at all. Do they treat you however they want based on their emotion du jour? I doubt it. They are disciplined because they’ve learned how to master their emotions.

Over the next few days, pick a situation and ask yourself if you’re exercising self-discipline. If your child acts up, before you react shift your mind to your Vision Statement entry—written when you were thinking about you at the end of your life thinking about you now—that guides you to use empathetic and nurturing forms of parenting. If an employee is slow on the uptake and quick to head downstairs when the clock strikes five, recall your Vision Statement entry that requires you to be patient, to treat your staff with respect, and to help them find their passion in their work. Whatever you desire to accomplish or to be remembered for in your life, write it down in your Vision Statement (my book The Connection includes a guide to creating your own Vision Statement) and then do your best to live it every day. By practicing self-discipline, you will become a leader on the inside—a necessary precursor to becoming a leader on the outside.

How do you exercise self-discipline?  Share your successes and challenges in this area with us in the comments.


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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, April 15, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Balance Work and Life


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There is more to life 
than increasing its speed.
--- Mohandas Gandhi

Even while brokering a peace accord during the civil unrest that followed India’s independence and partition, Mohandas Gandhi took time daily to sit at his cotton loom and spin clothing. You can connect with your Vision throughout the day as long as you’re willing to slow down long enough to catch a glimpse of it. When you get into your car, let your mind drift instead of making a call on your cell phone. When you have dinner plans at eight, don’t check emails until seven-thirty. If you want to enjoy your dinner, or be good company, or maybe even make others laugh, take time to wind down and reflect on your day before making the transition to social time.

Take some time this week to reflect on the pace of your life. Have you set any limits to the amount of time you spend checking emails, texting, or surfing the Internet? A young sapling is more likely to grow into a tree if you attach a wooden stick to it or build a fence around it. What fence can you construct around your check-emails-until-you-drop tendency so you can also grow toward the light—your holistic Vision for how you want to live your life.

What is the current speed of your life? Are you content with it, or do you want to make a change? Tell us about it in the comments.


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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, April 8, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become Your Greatest Fan


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Hoping for what you want in life without believing in yourself is like
waiting at the 
airport for the arrival of a flight that never had
enough fuel to depart. 
It’s like checking your bank account for
interest on money you never deposited.

--- Anthony Silard

Self-confidence is born from self-acceptance and breeds self-actualization. It manifests itself in your personal relationships, your success in your career, and everything else in between in every possible way. You design art because you love to create. But your paintings are an expression of your inner self-picture. You write because you love to write. But your characters reflect your self-image and the filters you’ve constructed over a lifetime to understand others. You sell clothing because you love the daily interaction. Yet the way you approach customers reflects your belief in the quality of the dresses, sweaters, and shoes you have to offer, which is an even deeper reflection of your belief in your good judgment in selecting the right styles from many alternatives to enrich their lives.

Think about the result you most desire in your life right now—whether it’s to meet the right person, or have children, or achieve a professional goal, or start a new company. Is your mind now focused on a singular goal deeply important to you? Once it is, ask yourself this one question: “How will my self-confidence affect how I achieve this goal?” Consider how your self-esteem will be reflected in how you bring what you wish for into your life. Make a pact with yourself to develop your self-voice into the nurturing, supportive, strengthening voice you need to live your desired life.

How do you build your self-confidence? Share your successes and challenges in this area with us in the comments. 

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).