Monday, April 29, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become Your Greatest Fan


 
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Seek not good from without: 
seek it within
yourselves, or you will never find it.
--- Epictetus

The primary reason you can accomplish anything that’s important to you is not your God-given talent, but your belief that you can. I’ve seen this happen over and over again with the individuals I’ve coached and known in my personal life: the person who wins is not the one with the most innate ability, but the one who believes she will win. “But how can I believe in my capabilities when the evidence is stacked up to the contrary?” you may ask yourself in your weaker moments. Does this mean you’ll gain self-faith when you have “the evidence” to back you up? Let’s destroy a common myth right here and now: you will never prove to yourself that you are a good and worthy person. When you try to prove your value, you focus on how others value you. Your focus is external; you seek good from without. You examine the outcomes in your life—how much money you earn, the approval you receive from others, the potential mates who desire you—and pin your self-assessment to whether they’re up or down.

This week, make a commitment to unhinge your self-opinion from the good opinion of others. The next time you perform less skillfully than you would have liked, or someone sends a neat little package of disapproval in your direction, remind yourself that your self-esteem and inner happiness are impervious to both whether you are generating specific results in your life and whatever anyone else has to say about you.

How do you attempt to prove your self-worth? Have you discovered some effective ways to stop trying to prove anything to anyone and to accept yourself as you are—independent of what you achieve? Share them with us in the comments.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, April 22, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Live the Life You Have Imagined


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Discipline is the practice 
of internal leadership.
--- Anthony Silard

Conjure up an image in your mind of a disciplined person. Do they do whatever they feel in the moment regardless of the consequences? Hardly. Do they blow up at their children, employees, or anyone else who doesn’t live up to their expectations? Not at all. Do they treat you however they want based on their emotion du jour? I doubt it. They are disciplined because they’ve learned how to master their emotions.

Over the next few days, pick a situation and ask yourself if you’re exercising self-discipline. If your child acts up, before you react shift your mind to your Vision Statement entry—written when you were thinking about you at the end of your life thinking about you now—that guides you to use empathetic and nurturing forms of parenting. If an employee is slow on the uptake and quick to head downstairs when the clock strikes five, recall your Vision Statement entry that requires you to be patient, to treat your staff with respect, and to help them find their passion in their work. Whatever you desire to accomplish or to be remembered for in your life, write it down in your Vision Statement (my book The Connection includes a guide to creating your own Vision Statement) and then do your best to live it every day. By practicing self-discipline, you will become a leader on the inside—a necessary precursor to becoming a leader on the outside.

How do you exercise self-discipline?  Share your successes and challenges in this area with us in the comments.


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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, April 15, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Balance Work and Life


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There is more to life 
than increasing its speed.
--- Mohandas Gandhi

Even while brokering a peace accord during the civil unrest that followed India’s independence and partition, Mohandas Gandhi took time daily to sit at his cotton loom and spin clothing. You can connect with your Vision throughout the day as long as you’re willing to slow down long enough to catch a glimpse of it. When you get into your car, let your mind drift instead of making a call on your cell phone. When you have dinner plans at eight, don’t check emails until seven-thirty. If you want to enjoy your dinner, or be good company, or maybe even make others laugh, take time to wind down and reflect on your day before making the transition to social time.

Take some time this week to reflect on the pace of your life. Have you set any limits to the amount of time you spend checking emails, texting, or surfing the Internet? A young sapling is more likely to grow into a tree if you attach a wooden stick to it or build a fence around it. What fence can you construct around your check-emails-until-you-drop tendency so you can also grow toward the light—your holistic Vision for how you want to live your life.

What is the current speed of your life? Are you content with it, or do you want to make a change? Tell us about it in the comments.


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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, April 8, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become Your Greatest Fan


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Hoping for what you want in life without believing in yourself is like
waiting at the 
airport for the arrival of a flight that never had
enough fuel to depart. 
It’s like checking your bank account for
interest on money you never deposited.

--- Anthony Silard

Self-confidence is born from self-acceptance and breeds self-actualization. It manifests itself in your personal relationships, your success in your career, and everything else in between in every possible way. You design art because you love to create. But your paintings are an expression of your inner self-picture. You write because you love to write. But your characters reflect your self-image and the filters you’ve constructed over a lifetime to understand others. You sell clothing because you love the daily interaction. Yet the way you approach customers reflects your belief in the quality of the dresses, sweaters, and shoes you have to offer, which is an even deeper reflection of your belief in your good judgment in selecting the right styles from many alternatives to enrich their lives.

Think about the result you most desire in your life right now—whether it’s to meet the right person, or have children, or achieve a professional goal, or start a new company. Is your mind now focused on a singular goal deeply important to you? Once it is, ask yourself this one question: “How will my self-confidence affect how I achieve this goal?” Consider how your self-esteem will be reflected in how you bring what you wish for into your life. Make a pact with yourself to develop your self-voice into the nurturing, supportive, strengthening voice you need to live your desired life.

How do you build your self-confidence? Share your successes and challenges in this area with us in the comments. 

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, April 1, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Live the Life You Have Imagined



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The ancestor of every action 
is a thought.
--- Emerson

Touch your nose with your right index finger. To commit this action, you first sent a thought to your hand to move in the direction of your face. After you lifted your right hand, you sent another thought to your hand to outstretch your index finger toward your nose. Touching your nose, like every other action you’ve ever carried out, is actually a ‘second action’. The ‘first action’, as Emerson reminds us, was its ancestor—the thought that preceded it. Everything you see in the world besides nature and human beings—a bridge, a movie, your house or apartment—is the physical manifestation of a thought someone once had. Just about anything you can conceive in your mind you can make tangible and real. But you have to conceive it first.

This week, go for a long walk, to a yoga class, or to a meditation and think about what you most desire, at your most profound level, in your life. Narrow down all your ideas to one core idea that most stands out or encompasses the rest. Then design some concrete action steps to transform your idea into reality. Get started immediately.

How do you ensure that your greatest ideas are acted upon? Tell us about it in the comments.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).