Monday, August 26, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become a More Effective Leader


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Actions speak louder than words.
They also lie louder than words.

--- Anthony Silard

If you are in a leadership role, people scrutinize your every move. They are looking for character, integrity, and competence. Why? They want to feel secure that the ship will arrive at its destination, and that you will look out for their needs during the journey. When your character is stable and rooted in a burning desire to help others – whether it’s to provide health care to elderly people, or to design cutting-edge fashions that make people’s lives more beautiful, or to enable young people to build their self-confidence through athletics, or to raise children to be healthy, confident, compassionate human beings – you inspire loyalty in others. You help them feel secure that you are committed to reaching the destination they want to reach, and that you will have a strong hand at the helm. This is why they board your ship. Write down a few ways you can provide security and stability this week to the people in your office, on your team, or in your home.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, August 19, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Build Meaningful Relationships

Just because they say “Action” doesn’t mean you have to do anything.
--- Advice given by Al Pacino to Jesse Eisenberg, star of the 2010 film The Social Network

In a recent interview, Eisenberg shared that the veteran actor’s advice on a film set in 2005 “helped me think of acting as something that I was in control of.” What are some of the ways others say “Action” to you? You most likely deal with situations where others shout at you, push your emotional triggers, look at you expectantly, or try to guilt you into doing what they want. Pacino’s advice is extremely powerful: you don’t have to do anything. Your response can be no response. About fifteen years ago, I naively asked an elderly Vietnamese villager what the war was like. I have never forgotten his chillingly wise response: “I choose silence.” You, not others, are in control of your actions. No one else can climb a ladder into your brain and force your lips to move. Pick a situation that’s currently taking place in your life and ask yourself if your actions are originating from your inner wisdom or if they are re-actions, or ‘second actions’ determined by the ‘first actions’ of others. If you’re having the same old relationship argument for the 56th time this year, ask yourself how you will reconnect with your values and use compassion, empathy and assertiveness to move the relationship in a better direction. If you’re constantly defending yourself at work, consider how you will choose silence at times and let your performance do the talking. Whatever the situation, the next time your buttons are pushed, practice taking a pause, slowing down, and reconnecting with your deepest values before determining how you will or won’t respond.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, August 12, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Live the Life You Have Imagined




Spend your whole life earning money to pass on to
your children and they will spend it. 

Spend your whole life building character to pass on to
your children and they will keep it.
--- Anthony Silard

The most important thing you leave your children is not money, but your name. Project yourself to the last days of your life. What will you most wish for – that you had left your children more money, or that you had lived by values you believe in and had avoided certain actions that did not reflect the person you wanted to be? While they will spend whatever money is left in your bank account, they will keep their memories of you – of the values you stood for, the love you shared with them, the sacrifices you made on their behalf – forever. These memories will leave them with feelings of either strength and pride or bitterness and shame about their heritage. Write down some of the most important values that you wish to actualize every day of your life. How will you live these values this week?

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, August 5, 2013

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Balance Work and Life


People with no center move in all directions.
--- Anthony Silard

When someone has lost their center, they become what I refer to as “all sails and no anchor.” I know this term well because I’ve been there myself. When we are always on the move, we become like a car that never stops to refuel, and lose our ability to sustain ourselves during the journey. Life is a process of extending from the center and returning to the center. You extend from the center when you go out into the world, take risks, build relationships, and pursue your passion. You return to the center when you step away from all these activities, slow down, and reconnect with yourself. If you don’t take the time to return to the center, you continue extending further and further away from who you are. It becomes more and more difficult to retrace your steps and find your way back home. Balance the time you dedicate to whatever you are trying to accomplish in your life with regular periods of physical, emotional, social and spiritual renewal, and you will be pleasantly surprised with how much more directed, purposeful and, ultimately, successful – as you come to define success – you become. To get started, write down the word ‘CENTER’ in capital letters and underline it. Underneath, write down one physical, one emotional, one social, and one spiritual way of spending your time that helps you return to your center. Dedicate more time to these activities this week.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday each week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).