Monday, June 27, 2016

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become Your Greatest Fan

When you close your doors, and make darkness within,
remember never to say that you are alone, for you are not alone;
nay, God is within, and your genius is within.
And what need have they of light to see what you are doing
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--- Epictetus

Four years ago, I worked with a woman in her late-twenties who had just hit a wall in her intimate relationship of two years. Amy and Marcus had planned their New Year’s trip to Mexico for about a month. Then he told her over dinner one evening that he didn’t think it was a good idea to go.

She wanted to angrily reply, “Who do you think you are? I’ve been planning my whole vacation around you.” Instead, she just listened without reacting.

I encouraged Amy to take some time alone to process what had happened and to think about what was behind the way Marcus was acting, and to also consider how she was feeling about the relationship.

Amy took a long walk alone after work in a nearby park the next day. While gazing at the distant trees, she decided that maybe she, also, needed to think more about where the relationship was going.

After taking time to relate to the inside, Amy was able to listen to Marcus’ commitment issues and help him to understand his fears, but also to clarify for both herself and for him her goal of starting a family over the next few years.

While Marcus was initially reluctant, he was also struck by Amy’s newfound strength. He realized he didn’t want to lose her. They are now happily married and have already had their first child.

This week, carve some time in your schedule to embark on your most important journey—the one within.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).