Monday, September 19, 2016

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Balance Work and Life

 
Travelers, it is late. Life’s sun is going to set.
During these brief days that you have strength,
be quick and spare no effort of your wings
.
---Rumi 

An accountant from Memphis I used to coach told me in one of our earlier sessions, “I’m thinking about taking two weeks off. I’m sure I’ll pay for it later.”


I replied, “If you don’t take time off, you can be sure you’ll pay for it later.”

Many people share Francis’ thoughts about “time off.” It’s a very limited outlook. Why? Because time off is really “time on” other dimensions of your life besides your career.

One of the primary problems the executives I coach face is they can’t take time for themselves or the people they love. They always feel they’re ‘too busy,’ or that taking a vacation would be ‘selfish.’

This week, try making a list of the true price Francis (and you) will pay for not taking time away from work.

Here are a few of the adverse side-effects you can anticipate from neglecting to take “time on” the non-work areas of your life: disconnection from your values and priorities, damaged or even lost relationships as others (rightfully) give up on your playing a consistent role in their lives.

Then of course there’s the lost productivity at work because you’re cutting with a dull blade. Productivity requires cognitive space to revisit and improve work processes—in other words, “time off.”

Then of course there’s the assortment of vices and illnesses that accompany self-evasion: excessive drinking or drugs, petty arguing, physical or emotional infidelity, headaches, ulcers, emotional bankruptcy…the list goes on.

After reviewing your list, schedule some “time on.”
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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, September 5, 2016

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Build Meaningful Relationships

Efficient information sharing:
#1—Digital. #2—Phone. #3—Face-to-Face.
Building meaningful, enduring relationships:
The reverse
.
--- Anthony Silard

Despite wearing a brace on each forearm, receiving regular cortisone injections, and facing surgery on her hands from sending up to 4,000 texts per month, a 16-year old from Chicago continued to send about 30 texts per day. 

“I know it’s not good enough, but I am trying,” Annie Levitz shared. “It’s not even good texts. It’s things like, ‘Hey, what’s up?’”

According to a Pew report, texting became the highest-growth mode of communication for teens from 2006 to 2009, doubling during this period from 27 to 54 percent. 

Further, half of teens send over 50 texts per day, one in three sends over 100 texts per day, and 15 percent send over 200 texts in a day or 6,000 texts per month.

The MBA students I interviewed reported that texting and IM-ing using the application WhatsApp are not only the predominate mode of communication between students, but in many cases the only means through which students communicate outside of class. 

“I made one phone call to another student from my smartphone during the first week and then never again for two years,” one student remarked. “It was just understood that we all used WhatsApp.”
 
Consider the ramifications of this digital shift for the development of communication skills such as listening with empathy and speaking with authenticity: when these complex interpersonal skills are not developed through practice, they atrophy.

Call a few people today that you usually text. Keep a journal of how these small changes influence your everyday relationships.
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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).