Monday, May 29, 2017

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Live the Life You Have Imagined

Many things which cannot be overcome when they are together, 
yield themselves up when taken little by little.
---Plutarch

What has been looming large on your conscience that you know could be life changing if you could just get to it? Even if all you can do right now is something small—it doesn’t matter. Do it anyway.

Consider something you’ve desired for a long time—whether it’s to act in a play, or to reconnect with your father, or to move an initiative in a new direction—and make a vow to take a small step in the next week to generate forward motion toward your goal.

“OK, but how do I get started?” you may be thinking. I am often asked this question by people in sales or fundraising. They share their dilemmas by saying, “Sometimes I just don’t feel like being ‘on,’” or “It’s hard to get myself motivated to talk someone into a deal when I’m tired and didn’t sleep well the night before.”

I advise them to start their day by calling or meeting with a few less-important clients and then work up from there.

“Look at your first few calls or meetings as ‘batting practice,’” I suggest. “Trust your instincts. You’ll know when you’re in your groove and it’s time to pitch to more important clients.”

Similarly, it’s better to leave home and go to a few job interviews than to stay home and wait for your dream job to appear.

This week, start taking batting practice.
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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, May 15, 2017

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Build Meaningful Relationships

We are not what other people say we are.
We are who we know ourselves to be, and we are what we love.
---Laverne Cox

There are many times in our lives when we experience emotions that are difficult to process, such as when a relationship loses steam, or a key project is passed to someone else, or we realize that what we thought motivated us in our work no longer does.

These emotions often threaten to steer us off-course and away from balance.

Perhaps never are we tested so strongly than when we lose someone we love.

One of the most basic tenets of emotion, including the emotion of grief, is that we only feel emotions in relation to what we care about. If someone is not important to us, no emotions are stimulated when we think of them.

The strong emotions that arise when we care so deeply can feel overwhelming. At times, we need a respite from such profound feelings so we do not over-identify with them and forget that they are a part of who we are, but not all of who we are.

Sometimes, the simple act of laughing with a friend or seeing a romantic or funny movie that makes you smile is enough to enable you to regain your composure and return with more inner strength to your thoughts about the person you miss so much.

You may be devoted to always honoring the memory of the person you lost. When you do, also honor the love you gained by having them in your life.

Most importantly, honor them for teaching you how to love, as this is your life’s purpose.
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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, May 1, 2017

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become Your Greatest Fan

When one has much to put into them, 
a day has a hundred pockets.
---Nietzsche

People who confront boredom never seem to have enough time for everything they want to do.

Others don’t take the time to think about what they really value, and instead do just about everything else.

They are afraid to be bored. They unquestioningly perceive dealing with themselves to be a hell on earth that is always right around the corner unless they avoid it, which they attempt to do at all costs.

This week, try to make your peace with the idea of spending time alone. Once you take this bold step, you will observe a sea change in your relationships.

The reason is that you will begin to spend time with others not because you need them around to help you get through the day, but because you value their inherent characteristics and want to share your time with them.

Once you make this change in how you socialize, you will be pleasantly surprised to find that others seek you out more.

Why? People read you like a book. When you are uncomfortable spending time alone, your ravenous need for companionship drips from every word that spills out of your mouth.

A learned skill in today’s society—which many have masterfully developed into an art form—is how to avoid such people.

Develop your comfort with being alone and the words you speak will emanate from a strong, stable center that instills confidence in you among the people you genuinely desire to be in your life.
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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).