Monday, June 26, 2017

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Build Meaningful Relationships

The best friend you can have is like a brother or sister.
The best brother or sister you can have is like a friend.
---Anthony Silard

At any point in time, some of our friends desire to be closer to us and some wish to be more distant.

The irony of craving for less social distance from specific friends is that there are other friends who crave the same from us whom we routinely ignore.

Instead of continually playing a role in this food chain where less social distance is the coveted gourmet meal, you can make the decision to step off the hamster wheel of incessant striving for unreciprocated closeness and open your eyes to those people who, right here and now, are making the effort to spend time with you.

The others, if they are true friends, will eventually come around. If they don’t, the friendship was not much more than a mental construction you needed to cling to in order to feel less lonely in this world.

You can now make the choice to move on and appreciate those who both share your desire for closeness and have the capacity to co-create a healthy and meaningful relationship with you.

Stop and take a moment to bring a specific friend into your mind. Try to recognize the level of closeness they want with you in this present moment. Acknowledge the level of closeness that you, in turn, desire with this friend.

Visualize a few steps you can take to develop the friendship given your perception of the social distance both you and they can handle.

This week, take some of these steps.
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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).

Monday, June 12, 2017

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become a More Effective Leader

Trust is the currency of leadership.
---Anthony Silard

When you build “Trust Accounts” with others by committing to what you can deliver and then delivering on what you commit, you earn the currency of leadership. When you give your word to someone and then don’t deliver, you withdraw currency from this Trust Account. 

A good image of leadership is a highway. This highway has many toll booths, and you need one and only one currency—trust—to pass through them. Every time you keep your word or act with integrity, you earn a coin. Every time you don’t, you lose a coin. 

You can only travel on the leadership toll road if you have these coins. As soon as you run out, you are out.

Think about it: Why would you ever support the idea of allowing someone to be your leader if you did not trust them? You wouldn’t have confidence in them, an easily understood phenomenon: this word literally means “trust” (fidere) “with” (con). 

Trusting someone who does not keep their word would make your life unsafe, and security is the feeling people most look to their leaders to provide

A leader must protect and ensure this security if they wish to continue in their role. You can make mistakes, you can refuse to listen for a while, you can even fail to inspire, but if you lose their trust, you’re done. 

This week, think about how the choices you make as a leader from day to day reflect a deeper integrity.
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Anthony Silard is the president of The Global Leadership Institute and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week in your inbox and a free copy of Anthony's new audio CD, "The Surprising Source of Your Passion", enter your email here (1-step only).