Monday, October 22, 2018

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Create the Intimate Relationship You Desire

Going for what you really want, while a good principle to live by, in practice is scary as hell. One simple thought returns to your mind over and over again: “But what if I risk and fail?” 
The truth is you never fail. You learn. You grow.
If that’s failure, I’ll take it any day over its alternative: stagnation.
--- Anthony Silard

How has your track record been in terms of meeting the right person? When you go out, do you sometimes want to approach someone, but then stop dead in your tracks out of fear?

Success doesn’t smile on the bold only for large, cosmic reasons. There’s also a very logical explanation.

Taking small risks builds your self-esteem, which enables you to take larger risks.

Even a small risk such as walking up to someone and asking how they are doing expands your self-trust. This happens not because of the risk itself, but because the risk enables you to experience the wonderful feeling of alignment—of observing yourself commit an action, no matter how small, that’s consistent with what you value.

Feeling that alignment and the inner courage it took to make it happen will build your self-esteem and become the cornerstone of your success.

This week—whether it’s to hopefully make a new friend or meet the right person—go up to someone new and ask them how they are doing. If they are not responsive, reboot and try again with someone else.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Center for Social Leadership, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization based in Washington, DC and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week, enter your email here (1-step only). To support The Center for Social Leadership's Young Leaders Program for disadvantaged youth either directly or through Amazon.com purchases, click here.

Monday, October 8, 2018

Smile, It’s Monday: Your Weekly Wake-up Call to Become Your Greatest Fan

Whoever is happy will make others happy too.
--- Anne Frank

Have you ever questioned why you can make an appointment to have dinner with your partner, or visit a family member, or play tennis, or go shopping with a friend, or work over eight hours per day, but you can’t make an appointment to do something for yourself?

We usually leave ourselves for last. We assume we’ll make time for ourselves after we complete all of our other meetings and engagements.

It rarely works. It’s important to schedule time for yourself before—or at least at the same time as—you schedule time for others.

At a fundamental level, you must take care of your own well-being in order to enhance the well-being of others.

You won’t be able to run a successful business for long if the last check you always cut is your own. If an entrepreneur doesn’t pay themselves first, they usually don’t get paid.

The same is true for our relationship with our self-time. Putting yourself last on your list is a sure way to neglect your own needs and lose both your edge and your capacity to be there for the important people in your life.

This week, make a pact with yourself to not only do right by others, but to do right by yourself. Take some time before you come home to go for a walk, or watch the sunset, or stop into that yoga studio you’ve been meaning to visit.

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Anthony Silard is the president of The Center for Social Leadership, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization based in Washington, DC and the author of the Simon & Schuster book The Connection: Link Your Passion, Purpose, and Actions to Make a Difference in the World. To receive Smile, It's Monday every other week, enter your email here (1-step only). To support The Center for Social Leadership's Young Leaders Program for disadvantaged youth either directly or through Amazon.com purchases, click here.